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I wasn’t thinking of Emma. I was together with Madelene and Bryan and my Mom for Easter, so I had thought of them, and maybe next Alan or Steven? It’s easy for me to arrange for you to meet my wife or mom. Alan or Steven would require my setting up ahead of time. Maybe when Emma is back from school and with me, then we could include her, but not before-I think. I’ll be at my desktop computer today from about 11 am to 4 pm today. So maybe just for a couple of minutes sometime in the afternoon today?
Hi,
I got out last night. This morning I sent you a suggested “meeting” on Zoon since you seem to prefer that. I will be hosting and login on in a few minutes.
I’ll leave you to the coordination about talks with others. It seems to me however that we ought to get things right before we risk a snaffu with the others. You play it as best you see it.
As to my medical check ups I do them every three to five years. A complete check up with scans and every test imagineable. I learned this as a secret from my friend Reisinger. Although I do not have sheep semens injected to prolong my sex life (virtually inexistent any way since I passed 70.)
This round I’m perfect, not even a bit of cholesterol ! They were concerned about what might be a bit of Atrial fibrillation, so that will be checked out over the next several weeks. I also now have to make an appointment for the two vaccinations. I can only do that in France, so once I have the appointments I will have to go there for three or four days each of the two times.
For now happily back in the sun.
DadDad just can’t process it: “ Firstly, I cannot respond readily to your SMS (Text Messages) because typing on my phone is not easy. If you will respond to my Skype invitation or login and connect to me ie eegouiranno, to accept my invitation to connect, I can type the text message on my computer.
It was nice to see and talk with you, but as long as you serve as your mother’s mouthpiece, you risk the discomfort we experienced on this last call. Simply your mother is delusional or out of step with reality when it comes to me. As I explained, there is no credible reason for her to have a lawyer defending against the French Government, since I volontarily intervened in an action to dismiss the French judgment. I have been very successful in these kind of actions but always in the US where arguments of due process can be opposed to the IRS pursuing foreign claims under treaty. Unfortunately your mother refused to have me represent her, so that I could only intervene limiting my options to the French forum. When I intervened I opened myself up to the governments attempt to enforce their judgment against your mother (which would not have happened if I simply appeared as her counsel) against me as spouses can be pursued jointly and severally in France. This was not the case here because the Government did not pursue a spousal claim since the assets were in your mother’s name. Bottom line is that the government judgment against Donna J Ryan – Gouiran was paid in full by myself. Thus there is no lawsuit by the Government against her and your mother could not possibly have a lawyer defending her on this particular claim. She does technically owe me at least half, but I have not to this date brought this action.
The reconcilqaition of this family which you call reintegration is a pursuit I have desired since Apriol 1195 when your mother left. This is why I very much welcomed your initial call, and the « deal » we made governing our consersations. It is not difficult if one decides to reconcile, you should worry only about reconciling yourself with me and not take the responsibility for Alan, your Mom or for that matter Steven. Your mother has always refused reconciliation of any kind and I do not see what would motivate her at this point. Alan I have no opinion on, and Steven doesn’t seem to be at a state where any kind of reconciliation could be entertained, notably because he must concentrate on himself and the significant problem he has with alcohol.
I think that if you can divorce yourself from representing your mother’s legal defenses – given her propensity for filing false affidavits and criminal complaints as shed id in the Enginuity case (the straw that broke the camel’s back for me), I truly believe that we can build on sheer will, the basis for reconciling our father and son relationship. I do not lack compassion or courage.
Like you, I’m good and you have me on your side – you always have had.
Love you
DadWhereupon “The Matrix” is referenced: “That is a lot of words. The old me would have preferred also to respond in writing because it creates the illusion in my own mind that I’m running the show and people will need to follow along as I say. Instead, I would have preferred a brief discussion. More than that, I would have hoped it didn’t need to be discussed. I’ll be extremely brief , which is easy because I’m not really involved and I’ve been forgetful about a lot of things. I think that is related to stress also, (and anxiety-reducing medicine) which I’m working on.
1. As far as I know the tax liability was paid by you in a foreclosure sale, which I’m very happy to hear about because it means you get to retain the property. That’s good news for you and I think it ends my mother’s involvement with a French tax debt in that respect. I’m 100% sure mom has not instigated any lawsuit, so if the debt is satisfied, it’s over.
2. If after all that we have gone through; all these financial loses; all of it and now I’ve been so pleased to talk to you and try to put things a little better. And if you are suggesting in any way that you’re going to throw all that away, when it’s so easy to continue, if you’re hinting that you want my mom to pay money to you or anyone then you are insane. What are you crazy or do you have no love for us? Our family was blown up for 20 years, so much pain and lost money and lying. Not one drop more. If I was some sort of masochist, crazy guy, I’m absolutely Intelligent enough to to find some causes of action against Denise, I absolutely gave her too much at the time and agreed to pay for things thinking that my drinking and earnings situation would change. It would never cross my mind to do this, but I could also easily derail Emma’s future and crush Denise, who has nowhere near the strength of my mother. I could also make arguments about taxes, and about unauthorized trading which brought me to the bottom. I could lash out and do lots of things, but I don’t because it would be so destructive to me and more importantly, all those I love. Emma is 18, and in college. I could so easily do dastardly deeds against my ex-wife. But I would be crushed. I might as well kill myself. My joy, my reason for living, my Emma, I’d be hurting her. For money. For money. I’d give my life for her. Right now as I stand. Because I’m trying every day to be a good person and husband and son and father. And you think I’m going to give that away for money? My whole life has been about helping them and what I’m trying to figure a way for them to give me money? They would cry. They would hate me. They would be crushed. And so would I. I ask nothing from you but yourself and your company and wisdom and maybe someday getting together. I’m not asking you for money. I need to know the same is true for you. You need to decide. Please decide now Dad. I feel tears on my face as I type this on my phone. If you’re ever going to ask for any money or anything like that from me or my mother, then you’ve decided. And that would be a very bad choice. I pray you chose otherwise. And if that miracle could occur I would be so happy and I don’t think you can even dream how much better our lives would be.
There’s a movie I love, (The Matrix) You choose a pill:
Blue is you continue along your previous life’s fantasy and continue needlessly fighting an enemy of your own making; or
Green you choose a true and honorable path of love and compassion and the greatest gifts life has to offer. We can walk again along the way just trying to do the next right thing, looking out for yourself and your loved ones. Life is always changing and suffering and what’s worse is that it ends. Let’s choose to enjoy today with the people we love and in turn love us back. If we’re lucky, we can have a nice house or trip now and again. I’m not yet old enough to retire so I need to work to pay for things but that’s not so hard as long as act like a good guy and am willing to do the work. Dad, please write back with just a word. Blue or Green.
I really, really want it to be “Green” ????❤️Dad-“Hi,
With all due respect, « crazy » is more likely to be defined by your and your mother’s provocations and senseless but costly processeses – just for exemple, your complaint to the Staten Island DA, and most recently your mother’s intervention in assistance to a British garage and her continued refusal to sign a form she has the legal obligation to sign.
Rather than simply apologize she triggers litigation, now you are doing the same.
Your notion of « green » is my total surrender, including for that matter to the absolute right I have to recover one half of your mother’s income tax, around € 165.000 which I paid. But there is so much more, including your mother’s insistence that the property division agreement be produced in court and the huge adverse consequences – such as my liability for what she paid me (but in fact did not). She is too ignorant, as you, to understand that harming me is only the beginning o the flood.
You live in a fiction, and structure your « facts » to put me in the worst light possible. You are just like your mother.
As to your argument that I should abandon claims because the three of you are her sole heirs, that is nonsense. She stole with your participation, in 2002, more than $ 357.000 from the trust – all monies passing through me eventually but targetting my mother’s lineal descendants. There was no possible legal basis for your paying trust funds to your mother (or her company for that matter). She will have to disgorge that amount plus interest, though you are primarily liable. My mother’s house and the life estate payments were never made – that is stealing money from my mother’s descendants which, after me, include the three of you, but it is a choice she had the right to make. Instead you illegally, omitting mention of the life estate, transferred for a ridiculous price never paid, the title to her house. Best I can figure your mother will have to disgorge the amount of the life estate payments never made. And that is just a beginning.
Funny how her drive to harm me (the garage case) opens the door to a myriad of problems for her (and derivatively for you if you continue to join her).
I note for the record that the only lawsuit I have started and perfected at this date is one to compel her to sign the transfer document – suicidal she continues to refuse and opens the dam for more.
The only crazy person here is your mother and her acolytes, which manifestly includes you.Go Ask Alice: “ Hi,
It’s quarter to one am, and I think I am at the end of my mental processing of the events and correspondences as last we experienced them.
Your anger, and immediate if ignorant legal defense of your mother’s interest in the tax case against her was demonstrative of the ill that festers within you. As long as you buy in to her fantasies and distorted versions of all facts, and to the extent they come to visit our exchanges, I do not see how we can achieve the mission which at least for myself was to be an honest effort at reconciliation of our relationship.
Rather, your statements (diatribe) would support a belief that you are seeking information to be used against me, or some assurance that I will not sue. I can well understand your concerns. Over the last ten years your mother and even yourself if we consider the nonsense you raised with the Staten Island DA, the illegal distribution from the trust etc. have attempted to provoque me into some kind of offensive litigation. Yet, until your mother’s interference with my litigation against the English garage, I laid dormant, happily. Even then, after numerous amicable attempts, I limited my immediate legal action to seeking an order from the court compelling your mother’s signature of the car transfer document (hearing May 2 or 3). Because of that necessity, I was forced to produce the continuing contract signed in 1995 clearly expressing the car was mine, and that your mother had the continuing obligation to sign any document required to perfect a transfer. That production surely will open a Pandora’s box of unpleasantries.
The response we received from her lawyer in Paris, was « Donna doesn’t care about the car… » coupled to a threat of the unthinkable opening a flood gate of litigation. That admission was of course true and as confirmed by the English garage, her cooperation and filings of false affidavits (the court says so not me), and of a false criminal complaint (again the police says so not me) was solely intended to harm me – with a consequence of helping them.
Yet again, I did nothing further than to seek a court order compelling her signature. Nothing, that is until I was advised of her instructions to her lawyer in Paris. At that time a simple apology and signature of the government transfer form would probably have ended it all. But instead of an apology, she uttered a further threat.
As you know well, there are four different causes of civil actions possible with quasi-certain adverse results against her (and you as a conduit). Those actions go to millions of dollars, yet I have sat on my hands always hoping for reconciliation.
You can then see how easy it was for you to fool me into the belief that your intentions were pure. Reconciliation is an inherently personal state. You cannot reconcile for your mother, or your brothers. In my thought process, if we managed to reconcile – you and I – it would be far easier to reconcile with your brothers – one at a time – and even eventually your mother, particularly when considered in the mind of a proverbial optimist like myself.
You approached matters as if it were a settlement negotiation, targetting zero recovery for me.
I cannot answer Green, nor do I want to answer the alternative you give me. Things are simply much more complicated as your explosion demonstrates. You cannot reconcile with me as you would a settlement negotiation. You cannot represent the interest of your mother or brothers in an attempt to reconcile your relationship with me. Of course I understand that you justifiably fear actions against yourself for your wrong doings and payments, but you set things up that way by routing funds to your mother which you had no power to do -legally.
I do not want litigation, and I can assure you that if your mother had not provoked it by involving herself in the car case, the only suit would likely have been the one to compel her signature, and if she continued to refuse, one for contempt of court and recovery.
If reconciliation there is to be, you must first approach the task with honesty and disrobe your hiden agenda. We either pursue reconciliation of our relationship (Option I), or enter into negotiations for an Omnibus settlement agreement, which will legitimately target the return of funds illicitly taken to avoid a debate on fairness and equity which would work against those you represent and likely go nowhere given your mother’s state of mind (Option II).
You chose Option I or Option II.
I certainly believe and favor Option I, though that may mean doing so without concern or involvement in any litigation which may arise. I have my doubts about your original motive, so you can understand that I have my doubts about your ability to pursue reconciliation as it should be done. Note I was truly disappointed that you could not stick to our agreement that litigation and other conflicts with your mother were forbidden.
Love you (still)
DadSon’s Disappointment “That doesn’t at all look like the word “green.” I’m out of the hospital and and incredible pain. Guess my Dad cares less about me than continuing to go around doing whatever craziness he does?
Dad says he’s forgotten what we we’re talking about: “ Hi,
I received an Email from you which I quickly read intending to respond on my computer. However the email never came to my computer and I, believing it there, erased it from my phone.
I would like to answer it, but I only remember that you attempt to justify your mother’s assistance to the British Garage on the basis that I forged her name etc…
Please note that your mother was fully aware that she signed the property division agreement and with that full power of attorney. That power of attorney allowed me to sign her name to effect a purpose consistent with the terms of the property division agreement. The court agreed, there was no fraud, nor was there a forgery – because of the power of attorney. Because she made such a fuss, the garage used her false affidavits and criminal complaints to damage me further.
Before litigation, I offered your mother to withdraw her affidavits and criminal complaint on the basis that as a lay person, she failed to understand that I was wholly within my rights, and that the car effectively belonged to me under the agreement. She refused causing me $ 40,000 in legal and other fees to defeat her allegations, and the continuing cost of prosecuting and now defending the British action – since they insist on a court order compelling your mother to sign the transfer of the vehicle. In all your mother’s falsehood and sheer stupidity, is causing all of this litigation.
I have numerous 2018 SMS in my records demonstrating that your mother was given ample opportunity to transfer the vehicle and withdraw her affidavits and criminal complaints. She is blinded by her hatred and you are being victimized by your desire to maintain your position as her accolyte.To then suggest that I should take the car which no longer exist since it was as sold in parts for an estimated € 40.000 in settlement of millions in valid and sustainable claims, with no refund of the $50,000 in legal fees she cost me, or the value of the car is patent nonsense.
Your other points I do not remember but will address them if you resend your email.
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